Feeling More Like Housemates Than Partners?

Feeling More Like Housemates Than Partners? Here’s What Might Help

It happens quietly. One day you realise you and your partner feel more like housemates than a couple.

The love is still there, but the spark? Not so much.

This shift can happen for many reasons – busy jobs, parenting, stress, health changes like perimenopause, or simply falling into routine.

Why It Happens

• Life admin takes over – bills, chores, childcare

• Physical and emotional changes – from ADHD challenges to hormonal shifts

• Reduced communication – only talking about logistics, not feelings

• Loss of shared experiences – no more date nights or fun adventures

How to Reconnect

• Make time for each other on purpose – scheduled time together isn’t unromantic, it’s essential.

• Talk beyond the practical stuff – share your thoughts, hopes, and worries.

• Do something new together – novelty can reignite connection.

• Acknowledge what’s going well – small moments of appreciation go a long way.

How Couples Therapy Can Help

In therapy, I help couples slow down and see each other again.

We explore what’s been lost, what you both need now, and how to rebuild emotional and physical closeness in a way that feels authentic.

You can move from “co-managers of the household” back to partners who feel connected and understood.